uesday, 09 February 2010
Image By the Noble Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azeez ibn 'Abdullaah Aalush-Shaykh
A brief article with advice to the men reminding them that marriage is not lust, but rather responsibility.
"This is deception to the woman and dishonesty and misleading her; and if a man came to his daughter or his sister and he knew that he did not want her except for this purpose he would not allow him to marry her, but when it comes to other people’s daughters he does whatever he wants. "
The noble Shaykh, the Muftee of the committee of major scholars in Saudi Arabia, Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azeez ibn 'Abdullaah Aali Shaykh declared that marriage is not just about lust and fulfilling the desires rather it is security and living together and stability.
The noble Shaykh said: Some of the Muslims have an incorrect understanding about marriage, understanding it in a way other than its reality. Some of them have an understanding that marriage is simply about fulfilling their desires, so although they might implement the legislated marriage contract, their intention with this marriage is not stability nor commitment rather he marries and in himself he is planning to divorce her, meaning he knows in himself that he will marry her for a specific time period even if he does not mention this or disclose this.
So he marries her due to his desire for her, not to have serenity and peace of mind with her, but he only counts her as just a simple pleasure; so he’s always on the verge of divorcing her and bringing in someone other than her. So he is a husband and at the same time he mixes this with the intention of divorce. And he does not want from the woman anything other than pleasure.
This is decieving the woman and dishonesty and misleading her; and if a man came to his daughter or his sister and he knew that he did not want her except for this purpose he would not allow him to marry her, but when it comes to other people’s daughters he does whatever he wants.
And all of this is from deception and dishonesty and fraud and betrayal. And for this reason Islaam has prohibited temporary marriage; and this is to marry for an estimated number of days for an agreed upon specific duration. Therefore this was made impermissible due to the harms that it contains.
And the Shaykh said: So what the person does not like for his daughters then he should not like it for the daughters of the Muslims.
And the Shaykh said: And some of the people might travel to places in order to find marriage for a specific number of days or months and he thinks this is a marriage contract and all of this is trivial to him, so he falls into sin.
And there are some who marry a number of women before (the other women he divorced) finishing their waiting period. So he will merge the marriage to more than ten women in one month without any concern for the Islamic legislated contract.
And the Muftee said: The Muslim must have good judgment and he should not let his goal be to fulfill his desire in a way that is not in accordance with the Islamic legislation. And he must adorn himself with the manners of Islam, and he must look at other people’s daughters just like he looks at his own daughters and his own sisters, and he should put people in the position that he likes to be in.
Therefore if the person believes it allowable to do evil to the daughters of others and to not comply with the Islamic standard and then he does not want this same evil for his daughters; then why this discrepancy? Where is the balance, where is the justice?
Unfortunately, there are some Muslims who make permissible that which Allaah has made impermissible so in a matter of days they marry a number of women, all with the intention of divorce, seeking by this to gain some benefit (from the wife) in the summer or the winter or other than this, and Islaam prohibits this. Therefore Islam wants for us to be well-balanced in our contracts and to put others in the position of our daughters and our sisters and to be truthful in our dealings.
And the Shaykh said: …and some of them go and travel and get married against the normal system and then they fall into sin or serious situations and perhaps they might abandon their wives or leave them and not return to them after they have become pregnant or given birth to his child, so this exposes the Muslim descendants to danger. And some of them don’t care about their wives or their children so major problems occur as a result of this treacherous marriage.