The young marriage of Ashia in islam , the Pocahontas paradox ( yes she was 10 years old )

In the name of Allah most gracious most merciful.

One of the things that some non-muslims bring up about islam was the young marriage  Ashia to the Prophet may Allah be pleased with him was . She was betrothed to be marred when she was 6 and the marriage occurred when she had matured to 9 as was the custom of her time and the society that they lived in . 

A couple things about this 

1. This was done because it was the prevailing cultural norm , it was not something that the prophet may allah be pleased with him came up with on his own . In fact when he came to the pagan arabs , jews and people around who disbelieved in the message of islam they started to say all kinds of things. His he had an impeccable personal character however and this was never taken to account . What was said about him is recorded in the books of history collected at his time called hadith and even in the quran itself . He was called a poet , a mad man , someone who just spoke tales of people gone past . However his marriage to Ashia was never called to account nether by any pagan arab , jew or Christian in their time , simply because was the cultural norm back then.
2. It was the cultural norm in our society not to long ago, before access to secondary schools, when you basically grew up and went on to cut cane and have children, in our country this happened your family would go to a family geography far off ask for their daughter hand in marriage and there you go an arranged marriage.
3. The mere fact that we have words like arranged marriage or betrothed shows how normal this was once in our own society.
4. Ok lets get into the whitewashing, a revisionist history if you will . Many , many well known and accepted women who were married or otherwise romantic involved in western societies were very young , a quick google search can name a few , Juliet from Romeo and Juliet the Shakespeare play was only 13 years old but in Modern movies they make her older to hide that fact . the case in Europe: five centuries after Muhammad’s marriage to Aisha, 33-year-old King John of England married 12-year-old Isabella of Angoulême. In the case of one of the latest Disney princesses Pocahontas she was 10 years old , yet in the movie she is made up to be much older to blend into the modern times . Why ?
5. Why would the Prophet may the peace and blessings of Allah be on him marry ashia , a few reasons . One to cement the family relationship with another person in is islam name abu bak , he was to go on to become the his successor and first khalif . To be an example of how to deal with a young wife , eg taking her on dates and stuff . And yes that really happened in a very public way teaching he muslims that islam it is important to take your wife on dates particularly when she if she was young . Its not just about the charity or prayer. 
6. The prophet may Allah be pleased with him had more than 1 wife , again as was the custom of his time . Ashia was the only virgin , all the rest were either divorced or widowed acting as an example of how to marry an older woman even a woman with many children for muslims to follow . A fact that I find no talks about . 
7. About Ashia the muslims owe her an debt that can not be paid for who she was and her impact and contribution to islam . She was brilliant. She learnt alot of islam directly from the prophet may Allah be pleased with him , himself . Some of the quran was actually revealed about her in particular. She became a prolific narrator and teacher of hadith , the senior muslim scholars in her time when they had disputes went to her to resolve them . She was particular good at explaining what the prophet may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him in his house , because none of the companions would see him there but she would see him, learn about how he used to pray at night how he slept , how he was at home mending his own clothes. Living with his family in a normal way except when the time for the pray came getting up and going for the pray . Things only she living with him could could see. 
8. At one point in time the a faction of the muslims actually rallied around her and she let armies such was her place in honor and respect that they had for her . This was Ashia feel free to ask me anything else that you want .

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